So you've been broken up for a while... but your ex is still sending you text messages. Is this just innocent, friendly contact? Or is your ex boyfriend or girlfriend still hung up on you?
Let's get one thing clear right from the start: post-breakup texting is a sign of continued interest. Your ex isn't texting you to make small talk, nor is he or she interested in "how you're doing". No, your ex is sending you these messages to stay in touch, remain in your life, and to keep the lines of communication open between you.
If your ex wasn't interested in you anymore, contact would diminish. As they went on in other directions, your ex would have less and less communication. Text-messages. emails, phone calls - these things would be few and far between, and ultimately, they'd disappear altogether.
For this reason, any sort of contact is a sign that your ex isn't ready to erase you completely from their life just yet. Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you, but at the same time they still wanted to keep you around - in some capacity - by maintaining residual contact. Knowing where you are and what you're up to is comforting to them, especially if they still have emotional attachments to you.
Some examples of text-messages you might receive from your ex after the breakup:
* How are you holding up? Are you okay?
* I still want you and I to be friends, even though we're not dating.
* When can I get my stuff back / when can you pick up your stuff?
* I need your advice on something, can we talk for a minute?
* I heard (something about you) from a friend of yours/ours. Is this true?
* I'm sorry if I hurt you, and that things ended the way they did.
In all of the above cases, your ex has trumped up a reason to make contact. He or she is fishing for information, checking on your status, and possibly even outright missing you. Despite what they might say, the contact is just for the sake of keeping the lines of communication open.
So what should you do when your ex boyfriend or girlfriend keeps texting you after the break up? Well, that all depends. If you're looking to win this person back, you need to handle things very carefully. Playing a back-and-forth game with text-messages is a sure way to prolong the breakup. You're giving your ex exactly what he or she wants: time to adjust to not being with you anymore, but with just enough contact that they don't have to miss you.
Want your ex back? First you'll need to MAKE them miss you. This simply can't happen if you're returning your ex's text-messages, which is why you need to ignore any initial contact or communication your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend might make. Is your ex still texting you? Good. Let their messages go unreturned for a while, and see how fast your phone rings.
What does it mean when your ex is still texting you after the break up? It means they're not ready to let go. Small talk or not, your ex is sending out signals that he or she still harbors certain attachments to you, at least for now. By being proactive, you can take advantage of this small window of opportunity and use this attention to get back into your ex's head... or heart.
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